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The surprising truth: What compassionate communication is not

What others say and do may be the stimulus, but never the cause, of our feelings…our feelings result from how we choose to receive what others say and do, as well as from our particular needs and expectations in that moment. —Marshall Rosenberg Not long ago, a Facebook friend—one of those friends of a friend [...]

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We all have the same basic needs

To observe without evaluating is the highest form of intelligence. ~ J. Krishnamurti Imagine, for a moment, a scene in which you had a difficult argument or conflict with someone. It could be one that has never been resolved and still flares up from time to time. It could be anything and anyone: a friend, [...]

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Let go of judgment: five tips for letting love in

Out beyond ideas of wrongdoing, and rightdoing, there is a field. I will meet you there. –Rumi We humans categorize, name, and label things to make sense of the world: clouds are white, the sun is warm, dogs are furry, crackers are crunchy, roses emit an odor. We attach names to things and group them [...]

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Thank God Almighty We Are Free At Last

We must not allow our creative protest to degenerate into physical violence. Again and again, we must rise to the majestic heights of meeting physical force with soul force. ~Dr. Martin Luther King, Jr. I Have a Dream “Can I touch your hair?” “Sure.” Tony laughed. He dipped his head down obligingly. I touched. Gingerly, [...]

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Declutter Your Mind: 3 Tips For More Peace

Nothing can bring you peace but yourself. —Ralph Waldo Emerson I crave peace. I like happiness too, and I’m often happy, but my primary goal is peace. I see happiness as periodic episodes, not as a state of mind or emotion that’s ongoing and steady. If I’m peaceful—neither high nor low, just nice and steady—those [...]

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