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The Peaceful Planet Guide to Great Sex

Seems some of you are wondering whether people who make a commitment to a peaceful, compassionate sort of life have sex. Quick answer: of course they do. Or maybe they don’t. Maybe they wish they did but don’t or…who knows? Like anything, it’s a personal thing. But what is sex like if you’re trying to [...]

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Why I’m jealous of men (it’s not what you think)

Jealousy is both reasonable and belongs to reasonable men, while envy is base and belongs to the base, for the one makes himself get good things by jealousy, while the other does not allow his neighbour to have them through envy. —Aristotle It’s 10 am. Cup of coffee in hand, I sit down at my [...]

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Cold winter dreaming: sand, sun, beaches… tops?

It’s February, and here in the northeast United States it’s cold, snowy, rainy, slushy, and gray. As much as I’ve welcomed the opportunity to catch up on some indoor work and some writing—and a welcome break from mowing grass and taking care of my garden—I’m ready for spring. No, forget spring. I want summer: sun, [...]

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On Masculine and Feminine

Let’s talk about sex. Don’t get too worked up, though. I mean gender, as in male and female and masculine and feminine, though of course this topic could make our minds wander a bit. I have a few questions. First: What is masculinity? Thinking of all the men I’ve known in my life—men and male [...]

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Anger Management: It’s Not Just For Bullies

When I read or hear “anger management” I get a mental image of wife beaters, child abusers, and violent men required by law to attend a program so they can get their aggression under control and live saner lives or at least not hurt anyone again. I picture a bunch of burly guys sitting around [...]

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