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We all have the same basic needs

To observe without evaluating is the highest form of intelligence. ~ J. Krishnamurti Imagine, for a moment, a scene in which you had a difficult argument or conflict with someone. It could be one that has never been resolved and still flares up from time to time. It could be anything and anyone: a friend, [...]

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Peaceful isn’t passive: 7 tips for speaking up

Sometimes, keeping our mouths shut only serves ourselves and our own fears. Silently watching someone jump off a cliff—or putting up with someone’s poor treatment of us or watching another get hurt without doing anything just isn’t useful much less compassionate. Whether we speak up or not and how is a choice. We might not [...]

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Just a dog? Maybe. Maybe not.

On the way home from the grocery store today, I started crying so hard I almost had to pull over. I was listening to the local news radio station, and I had to shut it off. That happens once in awhile. Yesterday I quickly snapped the knob to the left when the announcer told the [...]

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What are your triggers? Three little exercises to discover them

Everyone has little things that irk them. I do, and I experience at least one every day and usually many more than I can count. For people who suffer from post-traumatic stress disorder or have had extremely difficult experiences like abuse of one kind or another, a “trigger” can produce reactions like panic attacks, crying [...]

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The Zen Master’s Unexpected Lesson: 10 Tips For Empathy

Most people don’t know how to listen because the major part of their attention is taken up by thinking. Eckhart Tolle, The Power of Now A few years ago, during a personal interview with a Zen master, I had an interesting experience. Seated face to face on our mats, I told him my answer to [...]

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