Emotions

If someone has a problem with you, it’s their issue…right?

In an effort to restore and reclaim our sanity, a lot of us are realizing that other people’s anger and negativity has absolutely nothing to do with us. You’ve probably seen graphics and quotes going around on social media that say stuff like If someone has a problem with you, remember, it’s their issue. Don’t […]

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The surprising truth: What compassionate communication is not

What others say and do may be the stimulus, but never the cause, of our feelings…our feelings result from how we choose to receive what others say and do, as well as from our particular needs and expectations in that moment. —Marshall Rosenberg Not long ago, a Facebook friend—one of those friends of a friend […]

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Warning: You might be talking to a recording

Have you ever talked with someone and felt like it was impossible to get through, to get the person to understand what you mean no matter how hard you tried? Did it seem like everything you said got twisted around or the person kept finding some “hidden meaning” in what you were saying? Did the […]

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Raise your expectations, let go of the outcome

A lot of unhappiness or lack of peace stems from discontent with the way things are. Surprise, surprise. Your job sucks. Traffic isn’t budging—again. Your husband forgot it was his turn to cook dinner or your wife forgot it was hers. Your child’s school grades are beyond disappointing, and your long-planned island vacation was so […]

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Insults are gifts that we don’t have to accept

It’s been a long time since I realized that how people treat me is one thing, their thing. How I choose to react—or not—is another. My thing. The two are closely connected, of course, and sometimes seem almost indistinguishable. He gets me so mad. She drives me crazy. My boss drives me up a wall. […]

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